Take command and make it noted at the onset of the match. When I grab commander, I IMMEDIATELY shout that I've assumed command into team chat in all caps. It gets their attention. Something about white text.
Depending on your style and strategy, rearrange lance members as you see fit. I put scouts and mediums in one, and heavys/assaults in another. I use a med/long range misery for command so I usually order the assault lance to stay on me. I then tell the scout lance to capture bases, or stick together and circle strafe targets. A single assault goes down very fast to the wolf pack, and they're fast enough to isolate targets and retreat quickly when needed. Not that they do.
The command console is NOT NEEDED and is a WASTE OF TONNAGE as it is, as far as I'm concerned. You do not need to use 3 tons to be commander; anyone can be comm as far as I've seen. I believe the CC just lets you issue orders on the map. However, until a large overlay in the world appears, I feel it's useless, as there's too many targets flooding the HUD generally anyway and most people don't check the map that often. Aside from that you can just call out sectors of intereest and targets as you see fit.
Unless you're a scout commander I recommend staying in the middle or rear most of the time and surrounding yourself with friendlies. It doesn't seem like much but everyone being told to do a single thing is a big help because atl east they all have the idea now.
If the match is assault I highly recommend deathballing it and keeping yourself in the center, orders are often not needed other than to remind them to focus fire, or to point out flankings or targets. If you feel confident you can catch any scout or fast mediums, I'd suggest deathballing in every match regardless of game type. If it's conquest or whatever and you're grabbing points as a big group, any light lance out for caps is going to just fold in half when they run into you.
I often congratulate and compliment the team once the score is in their favor and the advantage is taken. Reassuring them is just as important as telling them what to do. If they aren't confident, they'll abandon the plan when they take sufficient damage.
I often roleplay as an AI command program operating out of a regular stalker pilotted by a stupid ********, who takes over when the AI program is damaged.
Other times I just roleplay as a stupid ********.
Edit: More on my build. I have TAG, BAP, as well as Artemis. I feel as commander unless you really have the advantage, you're meant more for supporting your team. I still do a lot of damage, but I feel that's more because my mech has good range, so I don't have to actively look for targets.
Edited by Iron Savior, 22 May 2013 - 07:36 PM.