Samaritan, on 10 June 2012 - 06:10 AM, said:
Look, I've read your whole post, and many other posts of yours...
I certainly don't wanna hate on you, heck I respect your believes, I respect your oppinions and I respect the fact that you want to share it. I know I shouldn't have a problem with you sharing all that, I'm not really sure if I do though, at the very least let me say I don't really know how to deal with it.
Please don't see this as a personal insult/attack, it's not meant that way!
Especially with regards to your last post, I wonder... ...what do you think I, or better
we should do in such situations?
It's not that I really disagree with you, it's just that, most of what you say strikes me as something I have already heard before. Actually from people "like you"...
That may very well just be me, but many what you say now, has been said to me once before, quite a few years ago actually, when I was in a situation much worse than what the brony-community is currently experiencing. At the time, it seemed to me like that was the way to go, like that was the way out of my misery. However, soon I ran into the first problem...
That person had told the broad principle how to deal with the situation, but hasn't even given a hint on what exactly I could do...
What I think I understood back then, and I get the same impression from your post, is that there are basically to ways that are acceptable with the concept of humility. Either ignore them and try not to let it touch you, which seems hypocritical to me, and the general perception is that you're being arrogant for pretending to not care, which tends to only make it worse, or what seems acceptable try to reason with them.
From my own experience, let me tell you this; It is ******* impossible to ignore someone beating you up, reasoning with him even more so, because you will have trouble even speaking over the cries and tears of pain that not only come from physical violence, but also because you realize that you're alone, ******* alone and no one's going to help you! Where's that great advice for a situation like that?
Even if people are "just" mocking you, there are plenty of those who are so presistent that they are not gonna give up just because you ignore them, or because you try to argue with them. They always find a way to get to you, even if that means resorting to simple violence.
I know I'm getting off topic here, but where is your great humility-solution to that?
At some point back then I had to realize that it was not going to get better, if I let people treat me like that!
If they don't have to fear any concequences, they are not going to stop.
I needed to fight back, and it only got better when people realized they could burn themselves when messing with me.
Sadly enough, it took me almost 3 years to come to that conclusion, but by then I had suffered more than anyone should have!
Granted, the problem at hand is nothing compared to that, at least not on the internet.
And I'm not trying to encourage people to go out there and wage war against those trolls, I do realize it's gotta be a pain in the *** for the mods watching over this topic, but is that our fault?
Is it really arrogant of me to assume that I have the right to defend myself?
As for moderating this topic, we're not the source of this problem, and no matter what we do those people will come back, or at least others like them. As far as I'm concerned, as long as our posts don't get as offensive as the crap we have to deal with, I don't think anyone's being arogant.
I know most of what I said is pretty much off topic, and maybe I misunderstood your post completely and made myself look like a fool in the process, but as much as I would like to see the world work the way you're suggesting, you cannot sell that philosophy as the solution to all problems!
For a simple reason actually, it only takes one party to not accept it, and the whole thing is pointless.
As I've said, I've heard something like this before, and it has gotten me nowhere.
I respect your opinion, and what you believe in, but I also feel the need to say that to me, all of that are just empty words, they have no meaning to me, because my experience has tought me, that the world unfortunately doesn't work that way.
Maybe you think that sounds very bitter for someone my age and I'd have to agree, but that experience is a part of me, and something I will never be able to forget...
Maybe you think I shouldn't have commented if that's all I had to say, but I actually felt the need to share my oppinion, even if it's a grimm one...
I think there's not better picture to describe what it looked like inside of me back then, and still does if I think too much about it...
Sorry for sharing my sad little story, and for getting so worked up about it...