I've spent a reasonable amount of time boating lrm's and have never been openly insulted/ criticized for that choice, at least not by my own team....I have been called the odd profanity by someone who just died to my lrm's, but in those circumstances the ire is understandable, if not wholly acceptable.
I do wonder if there is more of it going on at lower/ higher tiers? Low tiers my well be made up of rather poor players, specifically those who are unwilling or incapable of self-analysis, and subsequently have to find anything other than their own actions to blame their lack of progress on. This is something I saw extensively playing WoT. So many players there who seem utterly incapable of accepting personal responsibility for their own actions it's just amazing. These were generally the most vocal about the flaws in their team and/ or "hackers" " ******* arty" etc.
Should be said....I never carry lrm's on anything larger than a medium mech ( rare exception was catapults back when I was trying to elite them), and I do my best to be as effective as possible with them. This is a personal choice so as not to take up valuable tonnage on the team with what is, even to me as a lrm user, a sub-par weapon system.
Ironically, the only times I have been personally insulted by a team mate/ mates, was in other ( non-lrm) mechs....and to be fair only when I've derped-out in spectacular fashion, and subsequently I consider the criticism to be fair enough. I'm not an expert player by any stretch of imagination, and I screw-up on a regular basis...I have little issue with being called on it when I do.
As far as forum hate goes, tbh it just seems that there will always be those who hate indirect fire weapons. Regardless of how good/ bad those weapons might actually be, it seems to be the principle that annoys them. PGI could probably nerf lrms into the ground, mnaking them do zero damage across the board, and people would still probably moan about the cockpit-shake.

Edit to clarify: I consider there to be considerable difference between " forum hate" and people civilly discussing the relative merits of a weapon system, and what it's strengths, or lack thereof, are..or should be.
Edited by BadgerBeard, 01 June 2017 - 10:15 AM.