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Bishop Steiner, on 17 February 2016 - 06:57 PM, said:
I have Aspergers myself.
While there have been one or two juvenile idiots who have latched on to that thinking that insults somehow lessen me, or empower them, by and large I cannot say I have found it to have much impact, game to game, match to match or here on the forums.
I'm sure it had impacted my interactions, since I tend to be stubborn unless someone can actually prove me wrong, and I sometimes have trouble staying on the same page with conversations and debates, because neurotypicals seem so slow to update ideas and move on, getting caught in peripheral and pointless minutiae, and generally unable to see "big picture" how concepts interconnect and and interact.
So yes, I can find people frustrating, since logic and efficiency tend to be lacking both in game and on the forums.
But in spite of that, I can't say I am comfortable with aspergers being used as a catch-all shield, justification and excuse for all behaviors. Obviously on the spectrum we have all sorts of different perspectives, triggers, foci (mine tends toward the art assets), but even so, were are still responsible for our actions and words.
So while we indeed do see things, on the real world and the virtual through a vastly different lense than most of those around us, and one would hope for some degree of consideration from all toward those who may be wired different, be it because of autism, culture, etc, we are just as responsible to try to accommodate those around us who don't share our gift/burden/perspective.
It's no more their fault they seem illogical and slower to process data than it is ours we are slow as a general rule on all forms of social uptake.
Accommodation goes both ways.
While there have been one or two juvenile idiots who have latched on to that thinking that insults somehow lessen me, or empower them, by and large I cannot say I have found it to have much impact, game to game, match to match or here on the forums.
I'm sure it had impacted my interactions, since I tend to be stubborn unless someone can actually prove me wrong, and I sometimes have trouble staying on the same page with conversations and debates, because neurotypicals seem so slow to update ideas and move on, getting caught in peripheral and pointless minutiae, and generally unable to see "big picture" how concepts interconnect and and interact.
So yes, I can find people frustrating, since logic and efficiency tend to be lacking both in game and on the forums.
But in spite of that, I can't say I am comfortable with aspergers being used as a catch-all shield, justification and excuse for all behaviors. Obviously on the spectrum we have all sorts of different perspectives, triggers, foci (mine tends toward the art assets), but even so, were are still responsible for our actions and words.
So while we indeed do see things, on the real world and the virtual through a vastly different lense than most of those around us, and one would hope for some degree of consideration from all toward those who may be wired different, be it because of autism, culture, etc, we are just as responsible to try to accommodate those around us who don't share our gift/burden/perspective.
It's no more their fault they seem illogical and slower to process data than it is ours we are slow as a general rule on all forms of social uptake.
Accommodation goes both ways.
The way I grew up seems to rub a lot of people the wrong way and I've had people ask me if I was autistic or had AS because of how I interact with people.
I grew up on "to call a spade a spade" and "say it like you mean it."
Which means I often upset people. If someone is being a f***wad glue-eater, I let them know they're being a f***wad glue-eater. If someone asks for my opinion on something, I give them an unfiltered opinion without any dulling wording regardless if it may upset/trigger/offend/anger.
And that makes me come off like an *******. I don't do it to be mean, I was raised by pragmatic family where the nuances to communication are irrelevant. Be blunt, be concise, be simple, leave no room for misunderstanding.
On the flipside, I'm a huge people person and very much a social butterfly. And the two cliches earlier go both ways. If someone has a great idea or does a great job, I let them know that "hey, you did a fantastic job/that's a great idea!"
