FerretGR, on 01 December 2012 - 06:38 PM, said:
I've had that happen to me, and it sucks. I've posted about that as well. But I consistently (almost every match) try to chat up the PUGs or premades and I haven't had this kind of a response in... well, a long time. I think I posted about it during CB and that's the last time it happened to me. I found that it was a response to the perception of having orders "barked at them"... I started asking if a plan sounded good instead of telling people what they should do, and it seemed to work out better, confrontation-wise at least. It was a case of getting more flies with honey or what have you I guess
I can't give you stats. But if I could, and I said for every jerky jerk, you'd get two games with good players who'd try their best to follow the plan, that'd be worth it, wouldn't it?
Don't get me wrong. Despite my typical forum persona, anyone in my corps can tell you I'm pretty darn laid back in-game. I don't give orders, I make requests. Because of this, a serious jerk may only come along every 3-5 matches at best. The thing is, I don't believe that's worth it.
Jerks ruin my day. I don't have any desire to put up with them. I always play in groups no matter what online game it is purely for this reason. Being in a group means I know the people I'm playing with, and if one of them turns out to be a jerk then we can just boot him. Rather than fight with these sorts of people, I'd rather just remove myself from the situations that place me with them.
As I said, I do appreciate that some people have more patience for this kind of thing than I do. But this is my free time. I'm here to relax, have fun, and shoot Atlases in the back. I have no obligation to give someone else the cause or chance to ruin that for me.
This doesn't mean I never try and communicate. It's just that, when I do, it generally doesn't last long.
Losing doesn't bother me. If every PUG on my team runs in a completely different direction and we all get picked off one by one, it doesn't bother me.
Being yelled at because we lost? That bothers me.
Being shot at because I'm part of a premade? That really bothers me.
Lefty Lucy, on 01 December 2012 - 06:43 PM, said:
I've definitely been there. There have been times that I put out a simple plan, some guy runs off and dies, and we lose the match, and said guy who didn't follow the plan wants to blame the "commander." Or the fact that even if you *do* follow a plan, sometimes the bad guys are just better or more coordinated than you. Getting blamed for failure just because you try to increase the chance to win (but of course never guarantee) does suck.
However, I've found that by trying to communicate consistently I've just found a lot of great people to play with, and it has been more successful than not. I don't think it's realistic to expect everyone to do it every game. At the same time, if a PUG player asks "is anyone in a group?" telling him to go suicide or meeting him with complete silence, which a lot of group players do, is not productive either.
Vlad, I'd really like to say thanks to you personally. In this conversation we've had plenty of disagreements, but it has never gotten as hostile as many MWO topics seem to get.
For the moment, I'm not too worried about finding people to play with. I have a pretty substantial friend list, and a solid merc corps that I'm very happy with. I do meet new people in PUG games on occasion, but I'd hardly call it a regular occurrence. I see both sides of this issue very frequently (since I PUG and premade equally), so I don't take a hardline stance either way. Sometimes I communicate. Sometimes I don't. It depends on my mood, and how much I'm willing to take before I stop bothering.
I'm honestly surprised that this topic has stayed so civil. I'll put a few c-bills down to the mod presence in the thread having something to do with it.