Pater Mors, on 14 June 2013 - 11:37 PM, said:
You describe a phenomenon that occurs in many people and has nothing to do with gamers exclusively. There are some that appraise their own lack of skill or performance as a personal fault or deficiency and rectify it by acknowledging a personal problem then, in some cases, get help from another that seems to possess the desired skills or, in other cases, try something different than they had previously been doing.
Then there are others that will never see their own lack of performance or positive results as a personal fault but rather as something done to them. These people will act as you describe while the type I listed first will act as PEEFsmash describes. You both a correct about half the people but I personally do not think your points of cynicism are accurate.